While my students were working on their math review today this little list about what secrets women keep from men popped up on AOL, so I clicked on it. I figured, sure, I need a magazine to tell me what secrets I keep from the men in my life. Why not. I actually think that some of them are pretty accurate. Scary accurate actually, but I think that some of them are just blowing smoke. But I figured I'd post a few of them and exponge a bit while my students are doing their own journal writing.
(1) Everything a woman buys for herself -- from shoes to skirts and even shampoo -- really costs 20 percent more than she tells you. Maybe, although for me personally, I don't think that I habitually do this.
(2) She is just as nervous about commitment as you are. Absolutely.
(3) She may be modern and independent, but she still wants you to be "the man." A whole-hearted yes... may feminists everywhere strike me dead... I am very independent and I can do alot of things on my own, but I still want my man (nonexistent as such) to be "the man".
(4) She wants you to be jealous -- but just a little bit. I'm not crazy about jealousy, although I've been known to have been struck by the green monster a time or two. And I'm not talking about that crazy-stalker kind of jealousy. I think a little bit of jealousy is a good thing, sometimes and within reason. But none of this crazy stalker jealousy.
(5) She tells her girlfriends more than she will ever admit to you (but less than you fear). Sure, and sometimes I tell her more than you fear too, but also I know when to keep my mouth shut, when I don't want to talk about it and when sometimes all I want to do is have someone listen and not say anything. But I dont' talk about my problems all that often so maybe that's just me.
I don't know. I think sometimes that I have a strange perspective about relationships. I definintly don't have the I-just-turned-25-and-I'm-an-old-maid mentality. I believe that if marriage is in my future then it will happen when it's in God's plan for my life and until then I'm going to do whatever I want -- finish graduate school and start again, live in the Smokeys for the summer... have a career and teach and finish graduate school and I don't have to be tied down to someone who makes me unhappy... I just think that most of that is tied up in the Southern mentality of barefoot and pregnant. I don't mind the barefoot part so much, but the pressure of marriage is heavy enough in a relationship without outside pressures. Everybody wants to know when you're getting married and if its serious and why aren't you engaged yet. I have the rest of my life to be married.
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